BY THE REV. DAVID MERRITT |
Love is a mighty gift and a mighty obligation. I have been privileged to have been married almost forty-five years at this time in history. However, I really think of our relationship as starting with a date to our Homecoming Dance at North Forsyth High School in October 1973. Our music teacher, Mrs. Griffin suggested that if I asked her to the dance she would say, “Yes.” Little did we know, that what started out as a date, a dance, a kiss would become a love spanning almost five decades.
Our love story has been filled with various gifts: college education, many moves (28 est.), children, grandchildren, life experiences and church relationships. Together we have achieved more than we could have ever done by ourselves. God has blessed us with a capacity to rise above adversity and find a peaceful “Selah” amid a turbulent world. In this love story we have not been alone. We have leaned upon the kindness of friends, sought counsel from professionals, and asked for God’s grace and mercy.
The obligation of our marriage vows has also been a needed guide as well. In those words, we found a road map of sorts to keep our love on track, real and congruent with our ideals. With the covenant we shared, we created a living agreement forged in faith and love. Instead of giving in to the pressures of life’s struggles, we chose to embrace life’s challenges and seek a common understanding based upon mutual respect and cooperation and a deep awareness of each other’s needs and desires. Love wins!
Please don’t get me wrong. Marriage is work. May I encourage each couple who reads this blog to keep the marriage covenant in focus when faced with the challenges and hurdles that come your way. It is not the words, but the emotions encased in the words and phrases that allow the marriage to live and breathe…to triumph and to connect…to grow in faith, hope and love.
About the Author
The Rev. David Merritt is a retired Pastor, former Dean, Outreach Director, and Chaplain, but he’s “papa” according to his grandkids. David loves God, Laurel Ridge, and his family. He has enough sense to get out of the rain, but prefers raindrops anyway.